If there is something that’s holding you back (3 min read)
And it’s knocking your confidence
You’re getting frustrated because you’re not getting the results that you want
I’d like you to think about the problem/challenge/scenario a little differently
Let’s explore what is actually the main issue
The main issue every single time (and it’s the same for all of us) is what you’re thinking
It’s what you’re saying to yourself
Everything that you interpret in the world has come from your thinking
And this is good news, right?
Because if everything, all your problems or the old blocks, all your frustrations, all your challenges are all inside your mind
The greatest news about this is that you can change that
And you can change it, for example with a meditation practice at the root level; in the subconscious
But what you also need is your practical self-talk
How you talk to yourself
So if you’ve identified something as a block, immediately, you want to start saying to yourself, that it’s not a block, right?
Even though it still is…
What will happen is that you then start to create a different way of thinking about it
It’s your emotion about it that clouds your judgement
So if you can reduce the emotion, then you can start to move into a logical and solution-focused way of thinking
Because that is the required thinking for overcoming challenges, problems and puzzles
One of the tools I teach in the Good Thinking Club is the Want Formula
Which works on the basis that everything that causes you a problem is because you want it to be different from how it actually is
The first step is to accept the situation/person/habit how it is now and then it’s easier to start to find the solution
Sometimes you have to talk to yourself with authority like “Get on with it, just do it. Stop whinging. Just get it done.”
And then other times you’ve got to put an arm around yourself (not literally lol)
And speak to yourself like – “Come on, you’re doing so well. Don’t worry about it. Don’t worry about what others think. Don’t worry about that. You messed up today. Yeah, there’s a new day tomorrow.”
You’ve got to get that balance between the two
The balance of love and law, the balance of master and child
And this is what you have to work out for yourself
There’s no hard and fast answer and way of doing it
You have to work it out, right?
In one moment, you give yourself the stick
You need to be firm with yourself and just tell yourself to get on with it because it needs to be done
And then another day,
Give yourself a carrot
Be a little bit nicer to yourself. Be more encouraging
And the trick is to get that balance between the two
But take ownership of your challenges
They are inside your mind
And I’m not saying this to trivialise your challenges
I’m just saying the truth.
Everything’s how you perceive it.
Change your perception, over time the challenge changes.
And I can talk from the heart. I’ve done it and I’m doing it.
This is how you learn to master your mind and ultimately, master your life!
Keep smiling & speak anon