How to be in control and feel safe in such a crazy world!
The world is always in flux.
Everything is always in flux.
It’s always forever changing, and it doesn’t matter who you are there’s always going to be something the knocks you out of kilter.
Plans are only a guide.
In ancient times, (I’m sure some people can still do it today but they have GPS and all that now) people used the North Star to navigate.
It helped guide them in a particular direction but they never actually get to the North Star.
This is why I think it’s a great analogy.
So when you make a plan, try to understand that it’s not chiseled in stone.
That you may have to be flexible in the execution of that plan.
Because like the North Star you may never actually get there.
So a plan is a guide.
It’s to help you make decisions and then take action.
Because procrastination ain’t no good at all, basically.
So there’s that aspect about developing a plan.
And the reason that we like to have a plan is because of two things…
We like to feel safe and in control.
These are the things that we try and attain.
And both are actually pretty much impossible.
Because the world is so much in flux, and we’ve got such little influence over the things that are going on around us.
So when it comes to control, what you want to learn to focus on, which is the essence of good thinking, is learning to control your thoughts.
This means you’ll then be able to control your feelings or choose what feeling or virtue to bring into your mind and the situation that you’re faced with.
Rather than trying to control the world and other people and the things that are going on that you haven’t got much influence over…
You’re much better off learning to control your thoughts and your thinking.
Which is a skill that members learn inside the Good Thinking Club.
Now the other part of what we want/need is to feel safe?
Obviously we need that physical safety, that security in place, we need a roof over our heads, we need to be warm, we need food.
But again, if we’re looking for safety, and we link all of our safety to external factors that can change at any moment then…
It’s gonna put us and keep us in a precarious mental position.
We physically need to be safe.
But safety really comes from how we feel inside of ourselves.
Yeah. Because when you feel safe, you feel calm, you feel peaceful.
So if we can develop a stock of peace inside of us, (because peace is an internal experience).
Then when the challenges and the difficulties and the flux comes, we can remain more stable in ourselves.
We can remain safe in the knowledge that whatever is happening I can deal with it.
Inner-peace really is powerful like that.
Hence why I’ve been working on developing my own stock for 20 years now.
So by not relying on the things around us, I can remain stable inside myself because some of us have to face some really tough stuff that goes on in this world.
There are some really difficult and terrible situations that people have to go through.
They have to face it at some point…
And it’s not helpful wanting that situation or those circumstances not to exist, because they do.
So, the denial management strategy doesn’t help anyone.
The quicker we can move into that state of calmness and stability, the quicker we’re going to feel that we are more in control and that we feel safe in our own confidence.
And that we can develop confidence that whatever the situation is in front of me, I’m going to be okay.
I’m going to find a way through.
I’m going to be able to be flexible and adaptable enough to make decisions.
I’m going to carry out actions to help me navigate that challenging landscape.
So just to sum up…
If you really want control – control your thoughts.
If you really want to feel safe – practice developing your own reservoir of inner peace.
Keep smiling & speak anon
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